Many years ago, when I worked as an Office Manager for a building services company, I had a great boss. He taught me a lot about successful business including the concept: “give them an extra piece of chicken.” Give your clients more than they expect, give them something above and beyond the services they’ve contracted for. In addition to office cleaning, he might offer to shampoo carpet for the suite, or have the exterior windows cleaned at no additional charge.
An extra piece of chicken. I have built that idea into my Neuro-Linguistic Hypnotherapy clinical work as well. I give clients something extra, beyond what they came if for. I give them a gift called: self control. Or, in other words, control of self. Control of state of mind and body, control of your responses, control of your experience of LIFE! I call it: The keys to the Kingdom.
If you can control how you feel, you control how you will respond and interact in any given moment. If you can control how you feel, you can control the very thoughts that run in your mind. You begin to think differently about yourself! You create new, empowered beliefs. You move from an “I can’t” mentality to an empowered place called Choice. Rather than a cork bobbing on the emotional life of the sea, you’re at the wheel, driving the powerboat on a course you set. Full speed ahead!
And I give this power to clients to take home with them beyond our work in the office. It’s called an “NLP Anchor.” Using “Designer Feelings™” we create a desired state of mind and body and belief. It’s unique for the person, purpose and goals at hand, whether it be as an antidote to anxiety, fear, laziness, smoking, overeating, distraction, etc. We work to automate the changes inside the mind, so they become the automatic new feeling in the contexts under discussion, and the automatic new thinking and new behaviors.
AND we give ongoing self control, as our extra piece of chicken.
What is an anchor? It’s a physiological stimulus-response we set up in the body/mind. Think: light switch. On! Activated, It quickly brings about the desired and designed feelings into the body. How cool is that? And you control this switch. That mechanism can be set up as a touch, or a phrase spoken, an image conjured in the mind, a gesture. I’ve had clients call it “my calm button,” “my confidence trigger,” my “go for it,” a little girl called it “my happy magic finger trick.,” It’s not magic, it’s one technique among many in NLP. And it’s amazingly powerful to all who experience it.
Here’s an example: a person might come in for hypnosis services to address stress eating. We create the antidote to stress. Perhaps it’s a feeling blended of calm, confident, and happy. We automate new unconscious responses that replace stress and replace stress eating. Goodbye, stress eating, and goodbye to overweight! Goal met, happy client!
However, this new feeling, this NLP anchor, has a greater utility than just food. Perhaps there are other times and places where calm, confident and happy might be useful to our hypothetical client. Perhaps giving a presentation at work. Great! Perhaps for golf excellence. Great! With the anchor, a person has control. And can initiate the good feelings, anytime, anywhere. Power. Almost every client that leaves my office is given a custom designed anchor and instructions in how to use and activate!
As I said: the keys to the Kingdom. This is beyond price. Because these anchors last forever, with the proper use. And I explain the proper use.
NLP done right, it’s beyond awesome. What’s sad about NLP Neuro-Linguistic Programming is that so few people understand what it truly is, and how to use it–including people who purport to offer it therapeutically, and even those who teach it. NLP done poorly from a place of only partial understanding may still have some utility, but not much.
Perhaps it’s like the difference between a genuine diamond and a “faux diamonelle.” There’s high quality “real deal” product and there’s cheaper, inferior, imitation product. I offer the real deal, as a Licensed Trainer of NLP® through the Society of NLP® — I’m taught and certifed by the originator of NLP, Dr. Richard Bandler.
Feeling is believing, and we’ve developed and trademarked the ultimate great “Designer Feelings™ process.” Designer Feelings™ are available only at our hypnosis clinic, Mindworks Hypnosis & NLP. They activate automatically in the contexts desired, and are forevermore available to you as a source of self control. Call us and find out more anytime!
All the Best,
All material herein is Copyright © Connie Brannan, CHt. & Licensed Trainer of NLP®, Mindworks Hypnosis & NLP, 2015.