When I meet a client, one of the first questions I ask during the info gathering portion of our work is: “How would you rather feel?” What specific, explicit state of mind and body, aka mood, would be useful to you in the context under discussion?
The right frame of mind is essential to success in any human endeavor. A golfer might need focus and calm, and strength. A person who is speaking in public might need clear-minded, articulate, and a sense of fun. A person boarding an airplane might need a feeling of relaxation, security, and optimism. Intimate moments might need confidence, joy, and playfulness. A business person working a new project might need motivation, energy, and creativity.
Michael and I are Licensed Trainers of NLP ®. And expanding on that technology/skill set, we love to design our own new processes and ways of helping. Here’s one we’ve created at Mindworks Hypnosis & NLP: we custom-design and create with you new Designer Feelings ®.
And then we attach those new feelings where they are useful. We transform a problematic state of mind and body, such as fear, uncertainty, sadness, I can’t do it, lethargy, hopeless, etc. into power and joy and success generators.
Here’s a happy client sharing the choices she made in customizing her new Designer Feelings ® –she chose “calm, confident, worthy, and courageous.” And feeling those things, she kicked anxiety out the door. Good choices, Pam!
Marcela of Gig Harbor chose “happy, optimistic, and powerful.” It looks good on her.
Dr. Bandler (the co-originator of NLP, and the man who has licensed us as his Trainers) has a wonderful saying: “Good feelings, good decisions. Bad feelings, bad decisions.” That is so true! We’ll help you create those good feelings. When you change how you feel, you change how you think, and you change what you do in the world. It’s all connected.
The way I explain this to clients, I have them imagine we’re making soup: We toss into the pot all sorts of good things, veggies, herbs, spices, etc. We simmer and the flavors merge and meld and create something wonderful. So, too, we create for you Designer Feelings ®. We can create in these blends feelings you’ve never even experienced in the world. You can now.
How would YOU rather feel? Here’s a sampling of the power feelings you can choose from:
- Calm, Relaxed
- In Control
- Who Cares?/Indifference
- Not my Problem
- Self Esteem (otherwise known as “Yay, Me!”)
- Capable/I Can Do It!
- Having Fun
- Motivated/Go For It!
- No Way!/Aversion
- Passion/Engaged with Life
This is only a partial “menu” of items that can go into your customized, Designer Feelings ®. Then we do the work (utilizing NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming) to attach this new power state to the times/places/interactions where you want the feeling. Bottom line: We get to CHOOSE how we feel. What a life-transforming, power-filled idea.
Connie Brannan, CHt.
Michael Brannan, CHt.
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